Addict

Question: I am a video game addict and I want to recover from my video gaming addiction.  Where do I start and how do I succeed?

Answer: Start by honestly assessing your life.  Are you truly ready to live free from video gaming addiction?  Why?

The short solution is this: do you WANT to do better in your life? If you want to do better, all you need to do is give up and admit that gaming addiction has defeated you. Life is long and full of struggles that you will have to overcome. I found with gaming addiction for 10 years and I always tried to do better but I never really WANTED to. I loved playing games, fighting for survival, and having hanging out with all of my friends online. I finally was able to replace this part of my life by starting gamingaddiction.net and running my own business at banwork.com. Do you have activities in your life aimed at replacing your current habits or are you still at the same place you have been for a while? Life is simply a collection of habits and changing them MUST be something you completely want to do if you are going to be successful in changing them!

To elaborate some on recovery from gaming addiction, recovery is different for everyone in all addictions and within the same addiction.  Most addictions end through the person's desire to change without any intervention.  If you want to begin recovery, you have to be ready to go forward with a new life.  By ready, I mean truly ready to change your life and completely want to, not have to.  I do not mean talking about change and wanting to keep living the same way you are talking about without reservation.  As long as you want to live one way, why change it to another?  You have to believe completely in the change you want for yourself and this means completely wanting to recover from a video gaming addiction without holding yourself back.  If you want to keep playing video games with your friends, then why bother attempting to not be an addict?  You have to look at life as a long journey and trying to force yourself to change only makes it almost impossible.  I know.  I tried to force myself to quit my video gaming addiction for ten years.  I even substituted new addictions like gambling and paired video gaming addiction with alcohol.  The bottom line is, until you want to do better, there is no point in trying to do better.  You will only serve to keep yourself in the same spot you have been in as you fight to move forward and take steps backwards.  Live your life how you want to and change when you are ready to change.

If you are ready to take the next step, then just go forward. If you aren't, wait until the time is right and you are sure you are. You will know when you've had enough of a video gaming addiction.  Here's the key points again!

  • Change when you want to not when you have to. It is much easier and there is no point to trying without wanting to do it. For my gambling addiction, excessive alcohol use, and video gaming addictions, I have found I could only change when I totally gave up, admitted defeat, and found ways in my life to replace each of these parts of my life with new activities 
  • Line up activities to replace a video gaming addiction. It may not be easy and you have to keep trying new things until you find one that truly lets you feel the way you did when you playing video games. Sometimes, combining things like exercise and a new hobby will be necessary to move forward
  • Life will never be free from struggle and challenges. Accepting this makes it easier to deal with each one that comes along. You will never have a perfect life

I hope this helps you live better.

Jerry Banfield answered this question about gaming addiction.
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